The Crone

"The boundaries which divide Life from Death are at best shadowy and vague. Who shall say where the one ends, and where the other begins?" Edgar Allan Poe

I turned 39 the 12th of this month. I was supposed to create this post then but ya know how life gets. I finally have the time to sit down and flesh this out a little bit. One thing that has always perplexed me is this fascination and obsession with staying young. I don't know why people think of getting older/old as a bad thing. Yes, being young is a wonderful thing. Yes, there are issues that come with old age. However I just feel like too many of us spend our middle and golden years trying to relive our younger days. And that just leaves some of us bitter in some ways because chasing youth is like chasing that first high: no matter how good it gets, it will never be the same. You can't be 45 - 50+ talking bout high school was the best time of your life; how am I supposed to take someone like that serious?

There are three stages of womanhood: the Maiden, the Mother, and the Crone. The Maiden symbolizes the naivety (virtuousness, purity to some smh) of women. In this stage we know very little of who we are. We're just beginning our periods and damn near everything in the world is a mystery to us. Hell, most of us thought that womanhood began and ended with menstruation at that time. Fun times lol. In this stage we know nothing about nothing and we don't even know that we know nothing because proper guidance is sparsely handed out sometimes. Sadly for a lot of us, we sink or swim in this stage right here.

The Mother is representative of course, of the motherhood stage of womanhood. This is the time when we find a mate and begin to create our legacies, raise and nurture our families, and also become a student. Birthing, nurturing, loving, teaching, and providing for your progeny will teach you much and you will be tested daily. Not everyone is cut out for this motherhood shit, period. Nothing in this world can teach you life quite like having to care for a tiny human. Nothing will humble you quicker than hearing some bullshit you said come out of your child's mouth. And nothing in this world will teach you empathy faster than your child coming to you crying because someone hurt their feelings. Children teach their parents everyday, but not all parents are going to catch those lessons.

The Crone embodies the wisdom that is supposed to come with age. I say "supposed" because we all know some old ass dummies. Many women become the matriarchs in their family at this stage. We are passing our wisdom down to the next generation, so to speak, "The Crone energies are like the winter, quiet and still. Her outward face is hidden, and she is turned completely inward. She lets go of the need to interact with society and to conform to its requirements. The Crone doesn’t have the physical energy to make things happen; instead she watches and, in her stillness and being, allows events to evolve. She is the weaver of Universal Energy, who creates with intention and flow. We find her in stories of the ancient wise woman in the forest who talks more to animals and trees than she does to people. We find her in the family as the old grandmother sitting in the corner by the fire, making sharp observations that make everyone feel a little embarrassed. And we find her in the old woman who sits all day looking out of her window watching the world." (SOURCE)

I am in the Crone phase of my life right now. I'm not an old old lady, but my having baby days have been over permanently since 2003 (tubes tied) and 2016 (hysterectomy). Technically I am a Crone. And I look forward to growing old and passing on my knowledge to the babies. I mean, I could get all the surgeries in the world but to what end? Just to have perky tits on a saggy body? How gross. All I basically have to do is continue taking care of my skin and drinking plenty of water, exercise, and avoid hard drugs. I'm a dark skin Black woman, I am going to age gracefully. Besides immortality lies in the lineage; that's why marriage is a thing and why in the majority of society the kids get the father's last name. Anyway,

at this stage in my life I am only interested in course correction for myself (because I was stupid in my youth), giving the proper guidance to my kids, and expanding my family's legacy.

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